“Mum..is my bum too big they ask. People have said I’m fat and that my bum is huge.”
I looked at my child. This beautiful creature I’d carried in my belly and gave birth to 13 years ago. What could I say to them that wasn’t hypocritical?
The fact that for the majority of their life I had complained about how my body looked and how unhappy I was with people’s perception of me that I’d followed various diets and taken those miracle potions and tablets and teas in the search for perfection. How could I tell them they were perfect when I couldn’t tell myself that? It was that moment I knew that I needed to face the truth myself and accept that I am what I am, that it’s not important what others think of me, but more how I think of me.
Yes, I have soft curvy bumps and lumps.
Yes, I have a belly.
Yes, I’m short and have odd size feet.
But “hello world. I’ve brought 3 beautiful amazingly clever children into this world, I’m funny kind unique and loving and if I chose you to be in my life then you’re a very lucky person”
Anyway, back to the child. I turned to my son, yes my son, and told him that there was nothing wrong with his body. That many would pay a fortune for the beautiful shapely posterior that he possessed. That those who taunted had bum envy probably and to remember. he was only 13 and was growing in height and experience, and however he looked he was perfect. He smiled his fantastic handsome smile at me. Blue eyes sparkling as he hugged me in a semi uncomfortable teenage kinda way.
As he walked away, it dawned on me that our children, no matter what gender, no matter what age, need us to be their role models, they need us to teach them that the “perfect body” is actually one that you have already, that being rude or insulting about some ones body shape or even your own body is not right nor acceptable.
That the media tells us in so many ways that we are too fat, too thin, too tall, too short, too ugly and that actually we are all flawed, when we aren’t. We need to convince them that the way they look and see themselves and others should be for the person they are, not who they think they should be.
So I pledge, as a mother, an aunt, a guide leader, a drama teacher, as a woman, as me. To try my very best to love myself and my body so that those in my life can learn to love theirs too, and in turn they will do the same.
Founder Member, Actress, Model & Cheesy Ball Lover